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When I started writing my blogs for the USFSB website in June, 2010, I had no idea that it would last this long or would have covered so many topics.   It has been an adventure that for the most part I enjoyed and from which I learned some valuable lessons.

Prior to this experience, most of my writing efforts were confined to the many court papers that needed to be written on behalf of my clients.   Even though those papers would be critiqued by a Judge and sometimes criticized for not being persuasive enough, I always was able to detach my personal feelings from the critique or criticism.   I took pride in my professionalism but never looked at those writings as personal statements.

Not so with blog writing.  Each effort was from a personal point of view and, as I was prone to say to Annemarie, posting each blog was like giving birth to one of my creations.   I had to learn both to accept challenges to those posts that were personal in nature and to respond in as civil and courteous a manner as I could muster while still meeting the challenge and defending my opinion or belief.   That’s not to suggest that I did not welcome the responses even the negative ones since having an involved and engaging discussion was the point after all.

In any event, I have run out of topics of interest to me and decided to take a hiatus of an indefinite duration from writing blogs.   For those who have enjoyed my efforts I am gratified and for those who did not all I can say is that I believed it was far more important to be true to myself than to try and please everyone.

Goodbye and good luck.

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HE SAYS:

Now that we have reached the two year mark and have posted our 200th blog, perhaps my prior attempts to describe the nature of my blog postings were too oblique or too subtle so let me get right to the point.

My postings are not about how to run a small business.  I have been self employed most of my working life; however, I am not and do not profess to be an expert on businesses, small or otherwise.   I would never presume to give anyone advice on how to run their business and it was never my intent to make my postings a tutorial on how to run a small business.  Also, of course, it would be impossible for me to tailor my postings to the specific circumstances of any particular reader or their small business so I would not even try.   However, from time to time, there has been and will continue to be postings on general issues pertaining to small businesses, particularly, legal issues since that is my background.

My postings are about my experiences as a small business owner.   I have my own unique experiences and career path that includes operating a small business with my wife and children and it is those experiences and the insights that I have gleaned from those experiences that are the subject of many of my postings.   However, if that were all I wrote about it would only reflect a part of what is important to me and I would soon lose interest.

My postings are also about my life experiences and the point of view that I have developed from those experiences.   These are the topics that give me the most opportunity to be creative and express myself and that I find to be the most interesting.    The question you may have is why would that be of interest to you?   It may be of interest to you for the same reasons you read a book, go to a movie, watch television, or have a conversation with someone you just met.   In all of those activities, you are looking in on the experiences and the point of view of other people, real or fictional.   We all enjoy and benefit from sharing the experiences and thoughts of others because it gives us insights into our own lives, it gives us a chance to explore another point of view, it gives us a frame of reference to compare our own experiences, or, in some cases, it is just interesting to see how other people deal with the intricacies of life.

So here is the rub.   If what I have to say you do not want to hear or if what you want to hear I am not saying, then something has to give.   All I can tell you is that I will keep saying what is interesting to me and I can only appeal to those who want to hear it.   With that in mind, I encourage anyone to comment on what I have said, but, there is no point in questioning my right to say it.

On Monday, Joe talks about their condo at the Jersey Shore in “Our Piece Of The Jersey Shore”.     

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In life there are many things that are in doubt.   Many times we have reason to doubt the truth of what is being told to us or we may doubt the outcome of an event that is important to us.   Doubt is a part of life.

The most troublesome and destructive form of doubt is self-doubt.   Sometimes we let other people make us doubt what we believe is the right course of action.  We may even change our plans based on the seeds of doubt that are planted by others.

When I started to write these blogs about my experiences running USFSB with my wife and family I also felt it was appropriate to write about the experiences in my personal life since how and why I operate USFSB is just a part of the bigger picture of who I am and what I feel, think, and believe.

A few people have commented on the subject matter of some of the blogs and criticized the fact that I ventured into areas of my personal life rather than confine myself to topics that are directly related to USFSB or business.  At first this made me doubt the value or validity of such personal expressions.   Even though there will be many blog entries about USFSB and covering many different business related topics, I have decided not to fall victim to self-doubt.   I will continue to write about topics of importance to me even if not related to USFSB or business.

So in the immortal words of Frank Sinatra, I will do it my way.

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