SHE SAYS:

The last Saturday in March, 2011 was one of the happiest days of my life.  Our oldest son, Matthew was married.  In the scheme of life, marriages occur all the time, but for us, this was of course, a very special day and a very special wedding. 

Many life events have a way of being an everyday occurrence except when it happens to you.  I would say there are universal feelings involved when these events occur, but when it’s the first time for you it seems like you are the only one who ever experienced those feelings.  You know that other people have experienced the same feelings, but when you experience them yourself  or when you see it through your child’s eyes, it takes on more meaning and it seems more unique than anyone else’s experience.  Of course, we know it is not, but we can not help but feel that way. 

Nothing like a wedding can bring together families and blend cultures in a unique way.  Everyone wants the best and much happiness for their children.   Just a few generations ago, a man or woman might only seek someone for a spouse who was of the same culture, race or religion.  Newer generations have forged new experiences and have created more of a blending of families, cultures and traditions.  We have seen that occur with friends and relatives and welcome the diversity of our families. 

Matthew and Erika

Matthew and Erika

Matthew and Erika’s marriage brings together two families of different religions and different cultures, but in many ways our families are very similar.  Within a matter of three days of celebrations around the wedding, we can honestly say we felt like one big, happy family.  Even before the wedding, there was the rehearsal dinner and a large traditional feast hosted by Erika’s parents at their home which included almost two thirds of the wedding guests from both families.  This tradition is meant to bring the two families together and the evening concludes with ceremonial wishes for the bride as she spends her last night with her parents before moving on to her new life.  It was very moving and I was happy to be a part of it. 

Maybe it’s just the euphoria from the wedding and all of the happiness it exuded, but many people who attended the wedding seemed to feel the ‘specialness’ of this marriage and could feel the merging not only of the bride and groom but of their families.  I can honestly say that although we did not know Erika’s family well before the engagement last July, we now feel like we have known them forever and of course we now have the mutual bond of our children and their happiness. 

Matthew, Julia, Joseph and Michael

Matthew, Julia, Joseph and Michael

This just proves how an ordinary event like a wedding, can have an extraordinary impact on our lives.  We are still talking about this wedding and will continue to keep looking at all of the many pictures that were taken to relive the day over and over again. 

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